Is Saving A Relationship Worth It
Every relationship does go through bad patches. It is just a natural part of being in a relationship and you are never prepared for it. Many people often say it is very hard on you emotionally if you have been fighting to get your ex back for soo long.
This question will pop into your head. IS it really worth saving?
- If you are yet to marry and have a boyfriend or girlfriend you have experienced problems that you do not understand let alone solve. You ask around for dating tips or advice and have been given some good suggestions only to find that the troubles are still there?
Getting some serious relationship advice could be in order if you are thinking about getting a divorce. Because it is such a big decision and you need to realise that making the wrong one will cost you alot of time and money in the long run.
Like maybe once you have summed everything up you realise that your relationship is not actually worth saving at all. But how will you know this unless you look really seriously at your situation an get the necessary information that you need. Saving a relationship is an important thing to try and accomplish and will take a lot of work. It can also be frustrating work if the relationships not really there.
If you want to save this relationship really bad you may be blinded to the fact that the answer is staring you in the face… What is the answer? Well only you will no because there are limitless situations but all I am saying is that it is very easy to get disillusioned directly after a breakup.
As a plan of action you could try writing out lists of people that you most like spending time with. Try to be very specific with it and write why you spend time with them, the feelings that they evoke in you and the situations you are in that this occurs.
Sometimes more importantly though, right out the people you don’t like spending time with in certain situations and why… Does you g/f or b/f come into this category???
Do you really enjoy spending time together? When was the last time you went out and just had fun? Is it possible for the two of you to do that? Are you content just being with them? The best relationships between two people are going to be one where you can enjoy being together or can feel content just having the person there.
One of the most important parts of being in a relationship is that you feel that you are listened to and that you can tell them anything. This comes down to trust in a relationship which is not covered here but if you feel like you cannot tell you partner something for fear of there response you have trust issues.
A relationship is supposed to be a place where you can go when you need comforted. Is the relationship one that makes you feel comfort when you have gone through something bad? Is the relationship something that you constantly need comforted about?
Coming back to trust, which is the bases for any sold relationship.
-Are you able to trust them?
-Are they able to trust you?
If you have a problem answering either one of those questions affirmatively, then you may either need some serious marriage counselling or couple’s therapy.
In saving a relationship, there are many other things to consider and a decision like this should not be taken lightly. Ask hard questions and search hard for answers and then you may be able to find if saving a relationship like the one you are in is worth it.
